As many of you know (at least I think many of you know--if you have been reading my blog for a while, or have read the "about me" page) I have been married for about one and a half years now. I thought marriage would be so easy because Adam and I dated more than 10 years before getting married. I know some of you are doing the math now...
When Adam and I got married, I was surprised by how much was not automatic. We were living together for the first time which brought its own challenges. I would like to say that we are blissfully happy 100% of the time, but that would be false. We are blissfully happy most of the time, but that doesn't change the fact that relationships take work.
I was recently invited to explore Two of Us.Org. The first thing that caught my attention was the tabs at the top of the page where you can pick which stage of a relationship you are in for tailored articles and advice.
One of the first articles that caught my attention was about the pressure to have children after you get married. I spent years being asked "when are you two getting married?" Almost immediately after getting married, we were getting asked "so when are you going to have kids?"
We do want to have kids, but have a lot to think about and many decisions to make before we do so. I enjoyed the perspective from the article, and the three other articles I clicked on (you know the endless tunnel of clicking where one thing leads to another?). One of the most lasting impressions I had was that it is up to us when we have children because we are the ones raising the children.
I also watched a video by Hill Harper about "Conversation Parties." Well if you know me at all, you know I like to talk, and this just lends more structure to the conversations about life and relationships.
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I'm curious what the next question will be after we have children. What questions do you have about relationships?